Pain that is not physical in nature can be a tricky thing. It manifests itself in various ways and sometimes we may not even know that it is there. Subsequently, healing from this type of hurt is almost always easier said than done. How? This is the question. We often do not even know where to start.
If you get a cut, you put a Band-Aid on it and just wait for it to heal. Then one day you look up, and it has. If only it were this easy with our emotional wounds. We can cover them, we can bury them and give it time – and they still may not heal. We’ve only managed to ignore the scars that are just waiting to open up and bleed again at the slightest aggravation.
The healing process is unique to each of us, but one thing I know for sure is that you cannot heal anything that you refuse to face. So the first step is to accept what you have been through and acknowledge the impact that it has had on your life. It hurts to relive some memories, but you have to bask in that hurt for a little bit. Only then can you truly move past it.
Then, you have to forgive those who played a role in the hurt. Forgiveness is always more for you than the other person. Don’t feel as though you’re letting them off the hook at all. They have to live with what they have done either way. Although, so do you. So, forgive them. Not because they deserve it, but because you deserve to be free.
If you’re struggling, read books about others who have overcome. Find out how they did it. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help from a therapist if nothing seems to be helping. If you still can’t find the answer, just use what you have. The key here is to not stop until you’ve figured it out. Be unwilling to carry your pain through life. It will eat you alive.
You’re mentally stronger than you know, if only you’d allow yourself the opportunity to prove it. Put in the time and work to heal, to be broken down so that you can get over whatever “it” is, and then rebuild yourself.